Adult friend friend
They weren’t able to deal with the disappointment of not getting their way as well as being let down, so they chose to passive-aggressively punish you as a way to sate their anger.
If it’s a friend, sure, but what about a family member? These are people deeply ingrained into our lives, and we may be forced to deal with their behavior for a long time — whether we want to or not. The adrenaline pulsing through our bodies is telling us to fix this, solve it — do whatever we need to do for it to stop.
This is is a mistake — the more emotional you are, the more you’re engaging with the tantrum-thrower. “If the person having a tantrum is on drugs, alcohol, etc.
When you explain this to your friend, they immediately seem to shut down.
Clearly, the situation bothers them, but they refuse to address it. Don’t worry about it,” your friend says, but afterward, they’re closed off and seem to have a bad attitude.